The Truth Behind The Blog

I always hear parents say they are screwing up their kids. I laugh and think, well that is job security for all the therapits out there. I share my parenting views on here as well as my frustrations and aggrevations. My goal will to be to look at parenting in my own unique way and share my experiences.

Sunday, July 1, 2012

What no thank you?

So as I hurry and ruin my children's lives with rules and regulations.  I wonder why they don't thank me?  I mean if they understand the level of work that goes into setting rules and saying they would understand that it is done out out of love and kills us almost as much as it kills them.

So my friends husband posted that there 13 soon to be 14 year old daughter wants a belly button ring.  Oh my goodness, 13, when I was 13 I was singing along to music, writing and reading.  The most risky thing that I wanted was a second hole and my ear!  That was risque way back then, now kids are getting tattoos at 16 when their ability to think things out isn't even there yet. 

It is proven that until the world stops revolving around them they can not understand why we HATE them so much not allowing them to tattoo, "BITCH" on their ass.  I mean you don't understand how people will view you not today, but forever. 

I get yelled at all the time for saying this but when girls dress and show their body off they make themselves look loose.  Looking loose leads to sexual harrassment.  It becomes attention and they like it, they do not differentiate positive from negative.  Boys who walk around trying to look different,  earrings, black hair, get black listed by others, they don't realize that may happen.  It really comes down to asking questions.

I am not saying that if your son wants to color his hair blue, black and purple you should say no but ask why, talk about what the consequences might be.  All things have pros and cons, just saying no isn't enough, we need to understand the why for them and explain the why from us.  I am personally not a fan of tattoos of young people.  When you are 18 a lot of times you get something silly, wait until you are passionate about something.  So lets say you are a cheerleader all your life and when you are eighteen and can afford it yourself, you go get a tattoo of pom poms, that's fine.  I don't think that kids are ready to make those decisions.

That being said, we know how far saying no goes.  They go ahead and do things behind our backs when there is little to nothing we can do, other then perhaps ground them until they are a hundred.  If they are old enough to save up for something they want and can sit down and understand the short and long term consequences and how they would make them feel, then go for it.  Wow that was the best run on ever. 

Remember, being a parent is the abilty to say NO.

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